Navigating Complicated Mother-Daughter Relationships.
whether you are the daughter, the mother, or both
In complicated mother–daughter relationships, the strain doesn’t always look dramatic.
You reach for healing connection by expressing your experience.
The response comes back as collapse or defense:
"I must have been the worst mother in the world", or something along the lines of "it's not like I was putting cigarettes out on you".
And instead of the acknowledgment and repair you may have been hoping for, you're left holding the complexity on your own. Again.
Our minds are brilliantly adaptable
When the relational dance with our mothers is complicated, we adapt.
Some of the most common adaptations I see include:
- Reading a room and knowing what everyone else needs
- Being the one who handles what needs to be handled
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Showing up for the people in our lives.
These are beautiful, hard-earned strengths, AND...
...our strengths can also become our challenges
Over time, these same strengths can start to take more out of us than we realize— including:
- Difficulty having hard conversations
- Boundary confusion and boundary guilt
- Over-functioning and feelings of overwhelm
- Forgoing rest or personal needs
- Mental chatter, self-doubt, and foggy inner clarity
Fortunately, neuroplasticity is on our sides.
We can keep the hard-earned wisdom, but shed the rest.
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Relief Blueprint Session
The Relief Blueprint is a free, 35-minute 1:1 session designed to interrupt the cycles of guilt, second-guessing, and tension to bring you relief, ease, and clarity.
On this call we will:
- Pinpoint the source of any situations or patterns that pull you off-center
- Dive into your biggest current challenge, or the specific area where you're seeing more clarity and relief
You'll come away with a personalized Relief Blueprint with actionable and do-able steps to reclaim your ease. And, if it feels like a good fit, I'll share how we can continue working together.
Hi, I'm Simona
Daughter-healing has been my life's work. For too long, to the best of my ability, I tried to be the daughter my mother needed me to be so she wouldn't be criticized by her mother. Though dysfunctional, and not a path I would recommend, that dynamic offered many hard-earned life learnings that are the reason I am good at what I do in my work as a transformational coach specializing in mother-daughter dynamics.
I support women navigating complicated relational dynamics with their mothers, their daughters, or both to trade tension, second-guessing, and guilt for clarity and ease.... because relief is possible.
From my heart to yours,
Simona
Simona Vivi H
Hadjigeorgalis (ha-gee-george-alice)
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